To find that perfect self

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but it'll be nearly impossible to find that perfect self, not because you cant do it, but because your definition of perfection is constantly changing. Each and every person has a different definition of perfection, if you set the goal to find your perfect self, through experiencing new things and changing your lifestyle, who's to say someone else doesn't have a perfect self that matches to yours? Maybe the perfect way the world could come together is to become each and every persons perfect self and come together in a some huge sort of  seeking for belonging. After all, we all have the same definition of what a perfect self consists of, like being that truly loving kindness that every person is capable of becoming, one of the big questions though is how do you become "perfect". Well, you start with your thoughts, start thinking a positive outlook on the world and the world will do the same to you, focus your mind on expressing that love you know you hold back from the world and the world will love you back. Its easy enough to be loving but why aren't many people that like that? Because many people live lives disconnected from who they should be or who they're meant to become, unless you argue that people were meant to become savages, but I don't believe that's true, after all were capable of just as much loving emotion, as hateful emotion, but its time to live in that loving emotion.